Welcome to our blog - Eleven B's in a Hive! Every day there is a whole lot of buzzing going on in the home (hive) of the Burgess family.
With 11 people (our 9 children, my husband and myself) it would bee hard not to!

In between cooking (a whole lot of cooking!), cleaning (a whole lot of cleaning!), we also home school and make soap!
Yup - soap! All natural, awesome for your body, goat's milk soap! We own the goats... and chickens... and some cats... and some rabbits...
and one peacock to top it all off!

This blog is about our family. About making soap. About triumphs and trials. About adoption. It's about life.

Monday, September 8, 2014

Sibling Group Adoption: Jealousy

I never imagined that I would be the jealous one.  Honest.  As parents, we expect that our children occasionally will get jealous of one another.  One may color better than another.  One may run faster than another.  As adoptive parents, we expected the children already in our home, both our biological children and our adopted daughter, would be occasionally jealous of the new children - after all, in their young eyes they think of us as "their" parents and that it is "their" home.  I did not, however, ever imagine as a mom and as a wife that I would be the one who could be jealous.

It's true.  While in Colombia I remember wanting Kevin's (my husband) time so badly!  I would walk into the room, see one or more of the new children on his lap or around him and that ugly sin of jealousy just reeled inside of me!  I didn't like it.  I didn't want it, but it was there nevertheless.


I am happy to say that as time has gone by, I have adjusted.  Ever so slowly as I personally get used to having 9 children and as I grow more attached to the newest five, the ugly jealousy feelings have faded away.  Now, I happily send the children to their dad (mostly when I am preparing meals in the kitchen and have a lot of Littles underfoot)   :)


If you are in the process of adopting, know that this may unexpectedly happen to you as well.  If it is already happening, know that it will get better.  The jealousy will go away - And... it is perfectly normal.


In His name,


Karen